I have been doing quite a bit of introspection lately. Maybe because I am getting older or maybe because I spend a lot of time with people who cannot carry on a deep and philosophical conversation (my very young children) so I must have them with myself. I have realized many things and would like to discuss them in no particular order.
First is anyone who says " I would never do that with my children" will eat those words. I remember telling my friend Hope that I wouldn't let my children dictate the TV the way she let hers. HO HO HO!!! That was just one example of the funny things you say when you have not had children who want to watch something particular. It is not hard to be swayed by two screaming children. I have however overcome that. How you ask? Well, by doing something else I swore I would never do. I put a TV in their bedroom. Sometimes we all must compromise for the greater good or atleast for our own sanity.
When I was younger and several of my friends starting having children, I was seldom around. I would like to blame it on being young but I have a dear friend who is fixing to turn 21 (yes, 10 years younger than me) who has always been so thoughtful of my feelings and my family. That being said, I realized I was not always as good to people as they were to me. Unfortunately we cannot change the past and just as I have learned to be a much better friend and that sometimes my opinions are not always wanted, I have also learned "Friends provoked become the bitterest of enemies" BALTASAR GRACIAN, The Art of Worldly Wisdom (1647). I have let go of those situations I cannot fix, but I do leave that little glimmer of hope that one day all will be good!!!!!! I guess if I had to give advice to people about friendships I would say,"If you are friends with someone, you must accept them for all the good & all the bad."
Well, better get back to motherhood!
First is anyone who says " I would never do that with my children" will eat those words. I remember telling my friend Hope that I wouldn't let my children dictate the TV the way she let hers. HO HO HO!!! That was just one example of the funny things you say when you have not had children who want to watch something particular. It is not hard to be swayed by two screaming children. I have however overcome that. How you ask? Well, by doing something else I swore I would never do. I put a TV in their bedroom. Sometimes we all must compromise for the greater good or atleast for our own sanity.
When I was younger and several of my friends starting having children, I was seldom around. I would like to blame it on being young but I have a dear friend who is fixing to turn 21 (yes, 10 years younger than me) who has always been so thoughtful of my feelings and my family. That being said, I realized I was not always as good to people as they were to me. Unfortunately we cannot change the past and just as I have learned to be a much better friend and that sometimes my opinions are not always wanted, I have also learned "Friends provoked become the bitterest of enemies" BALTASAR GRACIAN, The Art of Worldly Wisdom (1647). I have let go of those situations I cannot fix, but I do leave that little glimmer of hope that one day all will be good!!!!!! I guess if I had to give advice to people about friendships I would say,"If you are friends with someone, you must accept them for all the good & all the bad."
Well, better get back to motherhood!
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